I’ve provided sex and relationship counselling with individuals and partners for more than a decade and have expertise on many topics. I’m kink, LGBTQ and poly-friendly. Here are a few examples of issues that I have worked through with many of my clients.
Relationship discord and communication
- Helping couples to better understand each other’s needs and desires
- Identifying and interrupting the cycles/ patterns of arguments and misunderstandings
- Deepening intimacy and connection through new skills to support each other
- Differentiation of self so that each person can hear the other’s feelings and experiences and support them without bringing themselves down also (emotional contagion)
Individual challenges
- Anxiety, depression, substance use. trauma
- Understanding and taming the inner critic, addressing shame and low self-confidence
Physical aspects of sexual expression
- Orgasms (learning how to have one, how to make them more powerful, how to orgasm in new ways, multiple orgasms for folks of all sexes)
- Erections, erectile dysfunction
- Libido (how to boost it and how to work with a low libido)
- Vaginismus and painful intercourse (how to help reduce the pain and how to keep sex great and pain-free)
- Lack of sexual pleasure
- Racing mind in anticipation of, during, and/ or after sexual connection
Communication and emotional issues affecting sexuality
- Creating the sex we want (uncovering latent desires, communicating preferences and feedback, negotiating sexual options)
- Deepening intimacy (creating closeness through deep sexual connection and appreciating differences that can enhance intimacy)
- Negotiating differences in desires and/or libido in relationships (navigating differences and creating mutually beneficial solutions)
- Keeping the spark alive (creative sex, nurturing passion, reviving sexual relationships, enhancing sexual pleasure)
Expanding erotic knowledge
- Tantric or spiritual sex (deepening connection through ancient techniques adapted to each individual or couple’s personal spiritual comfort, practice and understanding)
- Techniques for better sex: oral, hand techniques, toys, anal pleasure, kink and bondage